Say it Ain't So!
I recently read that men don't_actually_want_a_funny_gal to date. The article cites studies which suggest that when we're fillin' out those ubiquitous on-line profiles and asking for someone with a "good sense of humor", men mean one thing and women, another. Specifically, it seems women want a guy who's witty, can tell a good knock knock joke, make 'em laugh 'til they get a cramp. Men, however, just want a girl who will laugh at their jokes. So, to summarize:
For women: good sense of humor=ability to make said girl laugh.
For men: good sense of humor=ability to laugh at said man's jokes.
See the asymmetry, folks? This is a bit horrifying to me--I'm usually the "funny one" amongst my friends. Apparently, that is actually synonymous with "has a good personality." I.e., your parents will probably like her, but you sure don't want to f*&^% her.
Now, I've already blogged on the "possibility" that men want women who are intellecutally inferior--this witty observation must certainly come out of the same bag of beans. And that bag of beans must be what Steve ate...
For women: good sense of humor=ability to make said girl laugh.
For men: good sense of humor=ability to laugh at said man's jokes.
See the asymmetry, folks? This is a bit horrifying to me--I'm usually the "funny one" amongst my friends. Apparently, that is actually synonymous with "has a good personality." I.e., your parents will probably like her, but you sure don't want to f*&^% her.
Now, I've already blogged on the "possibility" that men want women who are intellecutally inferior--this witty observation must certainly come out of the same bag of beans. And that bag of beans must be what Steve ate...
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posted by slickaphonic at 5:06 AM
4 Comments:
My cynicality has been aware for quite some time that when the profile says "good sense of humor" means him cutting a loud noxious fart at your grandmother's funeral or teasing you about your ancillary butts, or bringing up what you said in your sleep at the office party, should just break you up. In other words, you should be cool with his boorish behavior. sigh.
I just never knew.
I'm starting to think "cat lady" is looking pretty attractive.
(don't worry, i'll be the "dog lady")
From the P.T. article, citing the PI in the study:
"To say that men don't seek a funny mate is "painting with a broad brush." Men who do appreciate their female partner's humor are usually more secure, mature and educated than the average guy, he says. They hold their mates in high esteem and aren't intimidated."
That is, the asymmetry is mostly about guys and gals you don't want to hang out with anyway. The humor study is another way of saying that most of the world still wants a boy who will win bread and a girl who will birth babies and generally support the boy. But you already knew that, and knew to look for people who are playing in a different league.
right-o, Mr. BK. However, it just reinforces the asymmetry of the dating world for guys and gals; if you're at the "top" of the heap as a guy, in terms of intelligence, humor, etc., then you're attractive to all the ladies. If you're at the top of the heap as a girl, then you're only attractive to a certain (and small) subset of the gents.
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